“Relationships fail when there is criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and avoidance.”
This study was done where researchers watched couples interact. They would make a prediction about whether a relationship would survive.
The four factors they noticed that predicted relationship failure are:
You’ve all been there. You observed a couple interact. As you drove home, you speculated to yourself or your partner, “well, that won’t last long.”
It was just a feeling you had. But, when you think about it, you probably saw criticism, contempt, defensiveness or indifference. They doom relationships.