“I wish I hadn’t said that.”
Ever had that thought? Once you said it, you can’t take it back. Out of your mouth – it’s a spent bullet.
I saw an acrostic having to do with speaking up the other day. An acrostic is one of those things where the first letter of each thought forms a word. It frequently is used as a memory device. This acrostic having to do with speaking was THINK:
Think before you speak. Be careful, though. Some folks can interpret this as “don’t say anything that stirs things up.” That’s not how I read it. Bringing the truth. Saying necessary things. That can mean saying difficult things.
Nevertheless, speaking the truth in a way that is respectful and considerate as compared to critical and denigrating takes thought and preparation.
Saying something that is necessary – quite possibly bad news and tough feedback – can be done in a way that is helpful.
I thought back on some things I wish I hadn’t said. All of them violated one of these conditions. Thinking before you speak has value.